Posted: 18/10/2014 at 11:28
Quite a tough morning yesterday but again it's something I wanted to get sorted so in that way I'm glad it's done. There were a small number of family there and I placed the ashes into the plot that was already prepared, which is something I felt I wanted to do and I just said a few words to myself. For some reason I didn't want to put the earth back on after so the funeral director did that and some nice words were said. The weather stayed dry as well, which was good.
Claire worked at a school called East Allington which is a very small village school. She sometimes had cows from the neighbouring field escaping into the garden/orchard of her classroom, much to the delight of all the children! Claire described one day when a cow came up to the closed patio doors, stared at the kids (who were inside the closed doors, laughing), mooed and later just turned around and sauntered back to the field it came from. East Allington is quite similar to Coffinswell church with similar views, and during the service yesterday a nearby cow did a massive "Mooooo" (you know, one of those moos where the tone goes up at the end), which seemed apt somehow and made me smile
After that the family came back to my house for a coffee etc, and then out for a meal at lunchtime so that was nice.
I may look into a bench or a sponsorship of a zoo animal (it would probably be a giraffe if I did that, as that was Claire's favourite zoo animal). I did actually consider both of these things but decided on an apple tree as I felt I wanted something that would grow. There's no reason that I can't look into other things as well though, if I want to.
I'm getting a baaaad feeling about this probate process. For example:
- Claire had some finance left on a car. I have been in touch with the finance company telling them I want to pay the balance and keep the car and explaining that Claire's account is now frozen so they won't be able to take any more money by direct debit. They then sent me quite a strongly worded letter telling me to fill out and send back a form as soon as possible. However, there was no form in the envelope. So of course that meant another round of phone calls to get through to the right person and I still haven't yet received the form.
- Claire's bank is one of the organisations that told me I'd need probate, so that's fair enough I thought. I gave them all the stuff they needed and they then sent me a letter with a form to fill out. The form they've sent me assumes no probate is required (even though it is them that told me I need probate), so again another round of phone calls needed to try and get the right form, which I haven't yet got.
It's all very time consuming and it's not filling me with confidence at the moment! What I am trying to do is deal with the post on the day it arrives as that at least means I'm nudging it all along and things aren't backing up, but these organisations are wasting time really
Running wise, I was supposed to run at parkrun today but I didn't make it unfortunately. I have a slight back issue at the moment (not running related) but want that to ease up before I go out again, which I expect will be tomorrow or Monday. I have had back issues in the past and don't want that to come back again so I am always pretty cautious with any back niggle, no matter how small.
Shades, I may try to come along to DMV to spectate so I'll look out for you tomorrow.