Posted: 11/08/2014 at 09:24
I have no children and never will have. I met my husband when I was 31 & he was 41. Having already had 2 children with his ex-wife he was adamant that he didn't want any more. This was fine until my mid 30s when I might have liked one. His feeling then was that he didn't want to be a father of a pre-school child at 50. I thoroughly respect that honesty.
There are many more people meeting 'second time around' and with this comes a whole new set of variables. For many, this means one or the other having kids in addition to an existing family, possibly when the first lot are into their teens or even twenties.
It's not for me. I decide that I'd rather have my husband and stepsons than kids of my own. I'm now 40, the urge to have my own has passed and I like my lifestyle as it is. I can't imagine now finding myself single or with a new partner and wanting to change it at this point in the day, but you never know.
It's horses for courses really. What's right for one isn't right for another. Some people have kids and wish they hadn't bothered; others dote on theirs regardless of age. Life is never simple!