Posted: 29/11/2013 at 12:50
We started touching on that subject within the group today. That for allies, of which I would say, I'm very close to it. Sh he stressed that the need for drugs or alcohol will always be there. In addition, the trick is to make something, such as running, is the thing you need more than drinking. I think I got it right.
Sorry, Sinbad, but with respect I'm going to disagree with some of this.
Firstly I think we're either alcoholics, or we're not alcoholics and that there's no such thing as being 'nearly an alcoholic', just like there's no such thing as being 'nearly pregnant'. You either are pregnant, or you're not. And being an alcoholic is a bit like being pregnant in that you either are, or you're not, the only difference is, is how far we've gone because it just becomes more obvious in the later stages of both. Alcoholism, like pregnancy, is progressive.
Secondly I don't believe the trick is to replace drinking with something like running either. I don't think that'll work for an alkie long term. Why? Because when the shit hits the fan we know where to go to get IMMEDIATE relief from it; yep, a bottle!
I think the trick is to understand why we drink and treat the cause, not the symptom.
The reason why I drank was because I didn't like sober feelings. When I was sober I felt anxious, restless, irritable, and discontented. These feelings wore me down - like Japanese water-torture - and forced me to drink.
My answer was to find a method which made me feel more comfortable on the inside; a bit of inner peace. As this grew, the need to drink just went. It really was that simple; but the method wasn't easy. Today, I just don't need to drink. I've had booze in the house for the past three years; no problems. It's just not for me. Mrs EDI is perfectly comfortable with having booze in the house; she totally trusts me these days. That's good.