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whats next

Posted: Today at 09:28
Ridgebackmax wrote (see)
Short term
Plymouth breakwater swim 2 1/2 miles in August
Snowdonia Marathon in October
Then nothing at all for 2015 recharge my batteries, work on my limitaions and generally have fun and save up for Lanza 2016

Quite choppy I would think? I used to kayak round there.

whats next

Posted: Today at 09:11

It's a toss up, either get back into tri and give it a proper go or do something different. Bodybuilding has made its way into my psyche with a question mark by it lately.

Term time holidays

Posted: Yesterday at 18:56
Faithsdaddy wrote (see)

We would have considered Devon (around Lynton/ Exmoor), were work not a consideration.

We're going there on holiday in a couple of weeks though 

I decided when I was 7 and my mum and stepfather took us to Devon and Cornwall on holiday that:

  • I was going to live in Devon or Cornwall
  • I was getting a dog
  • I was going to live on a farm

We have been here for 13 years now, it's not our farm (we live in a converted barn) but both kids have grown up being completely free range. They have the run of the farm and all the hay bales now at this time of year. Oh and the dog and the farm animals.

But this is the thing, they love it, I'm sure and they do go out and play (not as much as I'd like them to) but it's the norm for them so not as magical to them (unless in retrospect) as my dream as a kid?

 

 

Term time holidays

Posted: Yesterday at 18:36
Faithsdaddy wrote (see)

KK- We spent a serious amount of time looking into where to live.  Checked out many schools, spoke to people in shops, in the street, forums, etc.  I don't think I could have done anymore to ensure this is the best place for us.  If we didn't get some noise from the people over the road, I would give my efforts a 10/10.

Results are good at her school, but it's not about that.  It's a school where she's nurtured and allowed to be 'herself', which is really rare.  There isn't any bullying and she's a wonderful, confident person, which I was always worried school would change.

That is the important thing. We are lucky, we have one village school and it's just that, it's a mile and a half walk from our house. My elder daughter has just finished year 7 in our catchment secondary school, half an hour bus drive away in Dawlish (about 16 miles). I know we live in a very different place to people that have choices. But imagine if we weren't happy with the primary or secondary school? Again in such a relatively small community, there would be nowhere to hide.

However, this still isn't as it seems, we have a big secondary school only 5 miles away, but that is Exeter Council catchment and we are Teinbridge, which means Torbay, many more miles away. The SW is archaic still.

Term time holidays

Posted: Yesterday at 18:14

There is no 'best' school, ever. If you go on 'best for results' (and probably paying through the nose for it);  they've fudged their numbers or are exclusive. Meanwhile half their year 10/11 girls and some boys are starving themselves; cutting and vomiting their brioche and cucumber down very posh pans. Whilst feeling completely alien to the world they might have to face when their parents get a blast of the real world or cut them off.

At the other end there is huge disruption and all off the social problems that will out, but some kids steeling themselves against the tide of 'twat', ''cunt' and 'fuck you miss'.

And thinking "Yep, seen it and getting out of it"

AND everything in between. Luckily we are in between in Devon, especially where we live.

However, what I said about stereotypes in the other thread

Affairs.

Posted: Yesterday at 17:56
popsider wrote (see)

A mate of mine has been happily married for about 20 years but I remember early in their relationship she had a couple of affairs - OK they weren't married but they had been seeing each other for a while - they were both still at university.  

Typically most of his mates including me thought he should just leave her but instead he bought her some tickets to some gig (think it was Deacon Blue - personally that wouldn't work for me - drive me away maybe but it takes all sorts) to win her back and they now have 2 teenage kids together so you never know.  

Very close friends of mine got through an affair that not many couples would cope with, but have since gone on to have 2 kids and are complicated but happy enough.

Affairs.

Posted: Yesterday at 17:39
Nayan wrote (see)
kittenkat wrote (see)
Jenni-far-far wrote (see)

that programme was pretty distressing even though you knew what was going to happen - I couldn't sleep!

 

I found it hard to watch also but maybe not for the same reason. It's intention I have no doubt was to portray the fear, manipulation and true physical horror of domestic abuse. But it felt like a 'Sun' or 'Daily Mail' portrayal of something that has so many more complicated depths.

I know, I know, how much can you put over in a programme where the target audience I hope they are wanting to reach is everyone, male or female who is, has been, could be in danger...

 

To be fair, Ive always looked at these cses of abuse and wondered 'why doesnt the woman just leave for fucks sake.' IT did open my eyes to how the manipulation/dependency takes hold and keeps the woman tied to her abuser.

I can completely understand that question, but like anything it's the stereotype that everyone outside of that arena of events sees quite naturally and defaults to, quite naturally and normally. The stereotype is the rather knuckle dragging figure in this case and the timid defenceless woman.

That hapens but it reflects a certain defined percentage of cases, but much like other social issues. I've never been a heroin addict but have certain thoughts almost hardwired into me because it's not my bag and I revert to a stereotype; I try to look outside that stereotype because I would like to think I'm open minded but I know I can't understand or make sense of it or just yell to people..."Don't fucking do it!"

Affairs.

Posted: Yesterday at 17:05
Jenni-far-far wrote (see)

that programme was pretty distressing even though you knew what was going to happen - I couldn't sleep!

 

I found it hard to watch also but maybe not for the same reason. It's intention I have no doubt was to portray the fear, manipulation and true physical horror of domestic abuse. But it felt like a 'Sun' or 'Daily Mail' portrayal of something that has so many more complicated depths.

I know, I know, how much can you put over in a programme where the target audience I hope they are wanting to reach is everyone, male or female who is, has been, could be in danger...

 

Affairs.

Posted: Yesterday at 16:51
Country Jim wrote (see)
Yeah, it's important to see the funny side of domestic abuse.

Cock.

It was an ironing board, not a cock.

Affairs.

Posted: Yesterday at 16:50
Faithsdaddy wrote (see)

Scream- It's all to do with seeing the funny side in something, rather than finding it intrinsically funny.

Nayan- didn't see that.

KK- Get a Meile condenser dryer.  Unless your stuff needs to be super crisp, you'll never need to iron again.

She knows this

There is humour in the darkest places but only where is the same residual compassion. I think what I'm trying to say is that some of the people who deal with the worst in life, are also some of the most compassionate and funny.

 

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