Posted: Yesterday at 10:38
It's difficult, isn't it? I remember a time when I was trying to finish my PhD thesis, and my wife was expecting our first child, and it was a bit like a race to see who could deliver first. We were both kind of looking inwards a lot at that point, at what we were trying to get out.
And after the birth of a child can be a difficult time for a husband too, he may feel that it's unfair for him to ask for anything from you while you are focused on a baby. I took Nick's comment as meaning that it's worth considering whether you are part of the problem for him, but I think your original post made it clear you were already wondering about that, something about "I worry that we bring each other down"