Posted: 08/09/2014 at 09:42
Slowing the stroke was key for me as well - I used to flail away, give myself no chance to time my breathing, and then wonder why I was out of breath at the end of each length. Trying and find a quiet time in the pool and see how slowly and smoothly you can do it - I try and have a song going round inside my head to keep a rhythm going.
Good luck with it - its painful, but it does come - I went through it about four years ago, and my wife did last winter. Completely agree with Dustboy/Soup Dragon above - there suddenly comes a point where it clicks, and you go from struggling to do 4 lengths to 30 very quickly.