Corinthian wrote (see)There's surely a distinction between not being interested in sex and not being interested in the person you're supposed to be having sex with. Lack of a sex drive can be one of the symptoms of clinical depression Falling out of love with someone, so as you cannot bear to be intimate with them, isn't. It's important to know which is which.Very good point!Also, some types of medication can destroy your sex drive while you're taking them, including one I took for several months for migraine prophylaxis. It's a very difficult choice to make between chronic migraine (16 days per month) and a sex life, and I generally choose having a sex life!

There's surely a distinction between not being interested in sex and not being interested in the person you're supposed to be having sex with.Lack of a sex drive can be one of the symptoms of clinical depressionFalling out of love with someone, so as you cannot bear to be intimate with them, isn't.It's important to know which is which.

Corinthian wrote (see)There's surely a distinction between not being interested in sex and not being interested in the person you're supposed to be having sex with. Lack of a sex drive can be one of the symptoms of clinical depression Falling out of love with someone, so as you cannot bear to be intimate with them, isn't. It's important to know which is which.I'm not sure about that -- i think sometimes, thinking you've fallen out of love can be a symptom of depression.Johnny Blaze wrote (see)On the "things you want to say but can't" thread yesterday i opined that counselling is what you seek when you are having trouble getting laid.Which Mike just confirmed.It certainly is one of the possible good reasons for seeking counselling, there are others

MikeFrog wrote (see)kittenkat wrote (see)I don't know Mike, I think that some people just don't want sex, they don't fall out of love but they just don't want it. It's a bit like anything that requires effort.Hmmmm, it's complicated.... there are those that don't want it, and then those that don't want to want it...I don't think it's ever "just" that and means nothing elseMike, I really do think that it's that primitive for some people, I have met men for whom sex is the central point and driving force for connection. Emotional relationship is secondary to that.

kittenkat wrote (see)I would bet that there are a fair percentages of marriages and long term relationships where one person just isn't interested any more. I think that must be an incredibly difficult situation.Oh, there certainly are. I hear about a fair number of them, and I don't think it's usually "just" not interested any more .... generally the relationship has gone off the rails in other waysand unfortunately sometimes the "just" not interested partner re-discovers their sex drive with someone else

kittenkat wrote (see)Devoted2Distance wrote (see)I must be the odd one out here then...I could easily go without it forever.Really doesn't bother me.Would actually prefer to go running! Do you not enjoy it at all?I don't hate it... but there are things I prefer and I never actually 'crave' it.  I used to like it more when I was younger, but now I'm just not that fussed.Maybe my sex drive is stuck in neutral or something.